Legend for Experience Legend for Limits/Interest 0 - No Answer 0 - Hard Limit (Not willing at all) 1- No Experience/No Interest 1 - Neutral/Uninterested 2 - No Experience/Interested 2 - May try for partner 3 - A Little Experience 3 - Willing to Try 4 - Some Experience 4 - Like It 5 - A Lot of Experience 5 - Love It
You might like something that your partner has no interest in, and the opposite is also true. It’s important not to shame your partner for his kinks. This could lead him to shut down and shut you out in the future. You don’t have to try everything on your partner’s list, nor should you expect him to try something just because it’s on yours. If your BDSM checklist looks nothing at all like your partner’s or you both prefer to be on top, you might have issues. You might not be sexually satisfied if he can’t be a powerful dominant, for example. However, this checklist can be the catalyst for a conversation that helps you better meet each another’s needs. Remember, you don’t need to try everything on your checklist immediately. Take your time. Even if you’re excited to get started changing your “interested but not experienced” entries, these activities take research and practice to get right. BDSM tools and items can also be pricey. You don’t want to run up your credit card bill only to realize how much you’re really not into mummification or full-body suspension.
Blindfolds Bondage (heavy) Bondage (light) Immobilisation  Bondage (multi-day)  Bondage (public, under clothing) Leather restraints  Chains Ropes Intricate (Japanese) rope bondage  Rope body harness  Arm & leg sleeves (armbinders)  Harnesses (leather)  Harnesses (rope) Cuffs (leather) Cuffs (metal) Manacles & Irons Gags (cloth)  Gags (rubber) Gags (tape) Gags (phallic) Gags (ring) Gags (ball) Mouth bits Full head hoods  Mummification/saran wrapping Straight jackets Suspension (upright)  Suspension (horizontal)  Suspension (inverted)  Spanking Flogging  Single-tail whips  Canes  Belts Leather straps Riding crops Hairbrushes Wooden paddles Slapping (back, buttocks, breasts, genitals)  Strapping (full body beating) Hair pulling Face slapping  Fellatio/Cunnilingus Cum Swallowing semen Cumming on Partner Hand jobs Anal sex Anal plugs (small) Anal plugs (large) Anal plug (public, under clothes) Anal beads Vibrator on genitals Masturbation Fisting Oral/anal play (rimming) Double penetration (oral and anal) Double penetration (anal and vaginal) Triple (oral and anal) Forced masturbation Phone sex (with partner) Phone sex (with others) Group Sex Outdoor sex Orgasm control Watersports/golden showers   Forced nudity (private) Forced nudity (around others) Exhibitionism (friends) Exhibitionism (strangers) Modelling for erotic photos Video (watching others) Video (recordings of you) Voyeurism (watching others) Voyeurism (your Dom w/others)  Following orders Forced servitude Restrictive rules on behaviour Eye contact restrictions Speech restrictions (when, what, to whom)  Washroom restrictions Kneeling Begging Standing in corner Learned postures Rituals Massage  Fear play Fantasy abandonment Kidnapping Interrogation Sleep deprivation Rape Gang bang Initiation rites Religious scenes Medical scenes Prison scenes Schoolroom scenes  Abrasion Scratching Biting Tickling Kissing Zapping (e.g. elecric fly swatter) Ice cubes Wax Play Clothespins Asphyxiation Breath control Choking Teasing Humiliation (private) Humiliation (public) Verbal humiliation Spitting Washing mouth out Objectification (art, furniture) Shaving (body hair) Sexy clothing (private) Sexy clothing (public) Outdoor scenes  Public exposure Pinwheel Nipple clips Nipple weights Nipple suction cups Feet Boots Underwear Chastity devices Masks Leather clothing Over 18ís only
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